The changes in body after labour

It was the toughest night for me after the labour, share with those mummy to be..

Body temperature drops drastically, not only cold, it was freezing! My teeth were biting and I requested for 3 layers of blankets.

The nurse pressed her palm on my tummy hardly without giving any notice. That was terribly PAINFUL! She said that was to check whether my womb was contracting well. I looked at her with my nearly weeping eyes and groans, hoping she could be gently.. but she did not. Other than that time, the tummy was warm and still can feel the afterpain as it contract down.

A heavy discharge of menstrual blood especially when the nurse press on my tummy , I realized she is helping me to press out the clots (lochia) as I can feel the flowing each time she rubbed on my tummy.

Other than my head and both hands, the whole part of my body could hardly move, that’s why I said it was a tough night as the body and legs remained the same position the whole night, really uncomfortable.

The nurses did their routine check on me during the midnight to help me change the nursery pads. She will press gently on my lower tummy and asked if I feel an urge for urine. Though I can’t feel the urge when she pressed, but I think I need to. Anywhere, I used my little left strength to life up myself for her to put the container. That’s weird, I can’t urine. Is it normal? The nurse told me to relax and she left me alone. Urine is a very natural body act but I can’t do it for that 1st urine after birth. Very very very weird experience. Finally it took me around 10 mins.

The body was tired and battered physically but the mind was clear mentally and emotionally.

Therefore… sleepless.


expecting the next sunny day...

the day when Ryan arrives

Ryan is 2 mths old by now, but still i would like to recap the day when he arrives..

The expected due date for Ryan to arrive was 26/06/10 and I started my maternity leave 1 week before 26th. I waited for the day at home accompanied by my sis.. however day by day pass and there's no news yet till 26th. Then my gynae suggested for induced delivery.

At first, I would worry how would Ryan calls for his arrival.. tummy contraction? waterbag break? or bleeding? in the end, there's no drama for that circumstances to happen. Indeed, hubby no need to take urgent leave, I calmly took the hot shower, prepared everything well , took the cab and we report to hospital TMC on the day given by gynae. Since there's no "ganjiong spider" scene to happen, everything just came in planned. my mind and heart is just as calm to go through all the procedure.

3.00pm - check in TMC, changed n wait at observation room
3.20pm - induced with 2 tablets, a bit pain when the midwife insert the tablets.
baby heartbeats monitoring
4.30pm - check into the 2-bedded ward which upgraded from booked 4-bedded room
mild menstrual cramp starts
5.30pm - Dinner. finish all in order to have enough strength later
menstrual cramp continues n starts bleeding
8.00pm - went back to observation room for baby heartbeats monitoring

for the rest i can't remember the timing as i need to concentrate with the contractions!

Then finally i see my gynae. I'm still able to cope with the cramp by the time he checks on me. He suddenly burst my waterbag by barely using his finger. oooOOhh.. i felt the warm water just flowing out uncontrollably. I was also given antibiotic as body temperature was high. Gynae pat my knee and said "dun worry, everything is alright, it's 3cm now" before he left. okay.. my cervix is 3cm now and i still need to wait till it's 10cm for labour.

right after that, i was being pump by duno wat liquid for my bowel clearing 通便. I think i sat inside the toilet for 30mins and that's the time when my contractions become more frequent. When I'm back on bed, i was given dripping for the increment of womb contraction. Within that 1 hour, my contractions become sharper and sharper.. oh .. i'm getting unbearable.

I can't take the pain anymore and decided to go for epidural. I read the paper and signed with my shaking hand. oh dear.. the pains are just too PAINFUL.. how long am I going to wait for the epidural? the midwife said.. "mummy.. the doctor is on his way now"

When there's 1 pain that i feel something is pushing out from my bottom, i screamed out and hubby called for midwife. The midwives immediately checked on me, she hold my hand and told me gently.. "Mummy, we can't wait for epidural already, baby is coming out"

WHAT !!

"har.. I'm so scared...."
"Don't worry Mummy, listen to me, you can do it. just breath and blow now"

I was given the laughing gas. I hold the gas mask with my own, I groan.. breath.. blow.. praying myself while my bed was being push to labour ward. I dunno how do I react at that time, i was keep reminded by midwife to breath in and blow out... the laughing gas made me blur and unclear what is going on... but i know i keep groaning .. "i'm scared .. i'm cold .. i can't hear you". Every contraction come I tends to push out but the midwife reminded me to relax while waiting for gynae to arrive. she inserted her finger in my opening to prevent my further tear.

then I heard "doctor is here"... my both legs are immediately lifted up to each side. Gynae want me to push when the next contraction come. with 1 hand holding the gas mask, the other hand grabbing my own thigh, i'm preparing for the push.. the 1st push.. not good enough.. 2nd push.. I tried my very best. Immediately, i heard the loud baby crying..

uh.. give birth alr? I opened my eyes and saw my boy was put on top of my tummy! He is crying loud! the midwife clear up the water in his mouth while clipping his umbilical cord. Then he was carried away, i continue with the laughing gas, a warm discharge from opening.. while i continue to breath hardly, i know gynae is doing the stitch for me.. slowly.. my conscious started to black out.. i feel the surrounding is dark.. the only thing i can hear is the crying sound of my baby. few seconds later, the brightness come in and i regain my conscious.. i realised it's over now.

Oohh.. i just went through the pain and given birth. I did it!! I told myself.

the whole thing is just too fast~ from the waterbag burst till labour just took 3hrs plus. I'm really lucky that I did not need to bear for the pain for long hours.

After Ryan was cleaned and with his measurements taken.. he was finally put beside me. He is so quiet now compared to his loud crying just now. he was wrapped and put beside me while both of us was being trolley to his nursing ward and my ward.

A sleepless night for me. The pain from below and tummy still there and the labouring is just so vivid in my mind. I wish the dawn to come quickly as most importantly.. i wan to see my baby~~

A stunning day for both myself and hubby as he stood by my side the whole labouring.

There marks the beginning of our parenthood days.

My days from 25” to 38”

I would say that I’m a lucky preggy.

I hardly have any morning sickness or vomiting before my confirmation of pregnancy at week 10 and that explained why I only have pregnant suspect so late as I thought it was just another late of period.

That was funny when I first use of pregnancy tester. I did not put it through the urine long enough and end up the result was blur, alamak, not sure bingo or not.. in the end, need to buy another one to re-test again.

Sourced from forum and decided to visit the gynae clinic’s at SK, not only near to where we stay, he also serve 6-9pm slot which is convenient for both of us that taking leave is needless. I knew this gynae is popular but never expect that the Q would be so long! His popularity + SK homed by newly wed = long waiting Q.. sometimes.. waited for 2 hrs.

The only thing bothered me during 1^st trimester is a bit of giddiness and low appetite. I don’t like to eat any of the food and end up keep eating porridge, which made me feel hungry faster and end up to have vomiting feel. But all these were soon go off when I enter 2^nd trimester.

It was a 180 deg changed starting from week 15. All the vomiting feel, giddiness and low appetite gone! I craved for any food and indeed I ate every food (except seafood) and I feel energetic as there’s totally no morning sickness or insomnia.

I started to spend my time reading the pregnancy books and he started to browse the forums to learn more about pregnancy. As usual, I drove to work and continued attending whatever site meetings. I informed my office on my pregnancy when it was 3 mths. I thought the job scopes would be adjusted but nothing changed till the end.. bush.. kns..

I tried my very best to keep myself healthy, along the 9 mths, I only claimed for 2 times MC which I suffered from diarrhea. Other than the vitamins given by gynae, I drink the milk for pregnant mummy, bird nest, pao shen long yan shui, a lot a lot of fruits… etc

Coming closer to 3^rd trimester, we spent time to source and buy baby stuff. Wuh.. sometimes $$ would just spent like that in order to get the best for baby.. daddy & mummy’s love already bloated before baby is born.. haha

new blog cover

changed the blog cover photo as i entered a new chapter of life

time to put more post from now hee hee

just a recap, the previous cover photo

Happy Chinese New Year 2010 !

2009 呢

结婚，搬进自己的“豪宅”，零加薪，然后就是工作，工作

2010 呢

小小Bonus, 小小加薪。

然后我要孕育小生命， 做个健康的mummy ~

祝大家

新年快乐，虎年行大运！！

church wedding & SCI dinner

I have my first church wedding last saturday and it's our pleasure to share the blissful moment on Xiaoli's solemnization. The speech given by xiaoli.. is real touching. not have much time chatting with her cos her guest really a lot!! in the end, we guys zhixiang fenyi, eric siewmei, yingqing & bf chat ourselves during tea reception.

I took this pic with my handphone la.. i know it's blur




During one of the weekday last week, i went to have this SCI (singapore concrete institute) dinner with colleagues, sponsored by company (but spent $6 carpark fees in Tangs!!!).. i knew there's lot of high rank and "powered" ppl all around la.. but i duno who are they.. i jus enjoy my dinner.


very funny.. it's till later part then i realised there's someone i knew that captured in the above photo, that's ji jin yuan tong xue.. kekeeke.. this is the dinner that ppl distributing their namecards.. so do my boss.

走得腿好累

Frankly speaking, i'm still in the mood of laziness since the days back from Japan.. 懒懒地

my legs are tired now, as i made them to walk up and down for 5 blocks at least 35 floors yesterday. tired de lo.. jus to check the rectification work. total 8 blocks with 2 carparks, this is the biggest project site we ever handle.. is it bcos it's at AMK?? Uncle Lee's community?

this is two of the sample units. I'm surprise to see the gate pattern, it's not the normal straight design.. it has decoration floral design.. and the door looks very modern ~ is all this cost included into the flat cost?


punggol has a huge construction of HDB project sites now, one glance can see the skyline full with tower cranes. personally feel that the exterior design of HDB flat is getting more of "condo" look with the full height windows and all the feature fin designs, no longer the traditional look, not bad. however, bcos of this design.. we suffered lots of quality issue and difficulties in order to create and comply to the design.

I remember there were once having a discussion with an Architect in order to persuade him to change his design due to precast constraint, he said something like "hm.. why should Architect give in for precast? shouldn't the precaster follow what architect design?" .. if yr design is not precast friendly then it will be not be cost effective mah..

I have been seeing the concrete for the past 6 years... but when the building was completed with window glass and painted with the theme colour.. the piece & piece of components becomes a building.. a very good feeling

I can't wait to see another site at Queentown to finish .. this is the MOST & MOST jia lat design we ever encounter. the facade design change every floor, not much repetition. will it be good to view or bad to view? somemore the RE there is one of the ntu coursemate.. good luck frd !!

When i was still staying at tiong bahru, there's also a site just in front of my block.. that's 40 sty HDB building at bukit merah.. i'm sure the one who got the high floor can view the singapore flyer and fireworks from marina !! great location de lo...

aiyoh.. 腿好累

Before my Floral Hokkaido Honeymoon blog

Before whatever I’m going to write for this Hokkaido trip, I must note down this biggest surprise first.

She is same age as me.
She has same surname as mine.
She is also going Japan for honeymoon.
She took package from Fables too.
She had her wedding banquet at Grand Straits Restaurant too.

We have too many similarities
And there is more..

We have known each other since year-7th.
We have not been seeing each other for 15 years?

And I only recognized her during our first lunch in Otaru!!

Gosh.. I never expect to have this surprise during the trip!!
Yeah.. She is my primary classmate
For those in class 1M, 2M and 3M .. remember her?

me: "hm.. 你是不是凤婷 ? "

she: "是啦! 你是奕绮嘛 ! "

Since then, she is my hot spring companion.
Her husband is James’s companion of course!
We help each other to take photos..
Chit chat around and..
We both couples were also kena sabo to have kissing session in the bus!
Mainly becos we are the 2 newly wed couples in the tour group!

Like the japan coins 5-yen.. (pronounce as go-yen)
That’s 有缘.. la!!

再次验证我到哪里都会碰到认识的人, 不过这次真的是太夸张了啦 !

Our birthdays & outings

my bday during our wedding preparation, a japanese dinner & a small cake at home



JX's bday definitely more than mine, we had steamboat + strawberry cake + dessert. And i crack my head to make a card for her.. wahaha.. paiseh ho



i treat dear a dinner at brewbaker that near our home, jus 5 mins walk
"A moment when you can get away from the bustle and hustle, an escape from worldly affairs, an escape to brewkaber's..."



We went to prawn fishing at marina country club just opposite our neighborhood. crowded on Sunday. Prawn fishing is not difficult. I get excited when my first hook was jus within the first 5 mins!! this is my 2nd catch, look at his giant "hands"! We got 13 prawns and in the end.. they were BBQ-ed !!

Video Replay 2

This is another video played during the wedding dinner.

Our actual day 25.04.09 video.



Original 1st edition by videographer Terry.

Modified 2nd edition by my brother (with approval from Terry :p)

Video Replay

For those who missed it..

We played this during our wedding dinner



Thanks to my brother who produced this.

我要开心很久!

怎么办! 心情还是相当亢奋!

每次很用心地完成一件事, 我就会开心很久很久.

从策划, 准备, 行动到安排, 都是第一次的我们要怎样做才不会出错, 要怎样做才是适当的, 真的有很多学问在里头咧.

感觉很复杂, 有些新人把筹备工作交给wedding planner, 有些亲力亲为. 像我们这样, 虽然很累, 但有全家人和朋友的帮忙, 再累也值得. 我觉得很开心, 很满足, 很有成就感!!

也许没有Alex Tan的一切完美, 但其他不完美已经不重要啦!!

如今, 那些美好的画面就只能留在回忆里了

As long as I think I’m the most beautiful bride on my big day is enough.. HahaHAHAHA

YEAH . YEAH … YEAH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Inconsiderate neighbour

The picture not clear to show the smoke blowing towards my house.. it's so stuffy!!

Merry Christmas

Year end again.. we expect christmas, new year and.. BONUS!

How many months you have?

or it's more appropriate to ask: Does your company give bonus?

some ppl no work to do, they cry. we got lots of job to do, also cry. that day my GM told a supplier no bonus this year.. oh no.. jaw drops.. sure bo?

last weekend attended the HDB D&D at The Fullerton Hotel.. sponsored by company, $200 per pax.. don't play play.. that's really a big sum!! the course is so-so.. but the show is hilarious!! the theme is Shanghai Night.. lots of ladies dress in cheong-sum, man dress like 上海滩老大.. 5 departments from HDB giving out the performance like singing, dancing, band and drama.. the funniest one is the show of 上海滩.. 超搞笑. just didn't expect the head or the officers look stern in days.. but when come to show.. they can 霍出去! The special guest is Patricia Mok.. so skinny !!

I guess most of you out there are having holiday mood and less work now?

for those going out for vacation, enjoy enjoy enjoy ! don't forget my souveniors.. hee hee

for those as busy as me, enjoy the holiday with works.. bo bian..

Merry christmas and happy new year everyone!!

那时...已十年了

上一回的筹款晚宴，十大义演，剪彩人，鸣锣人
是10年前的事了

毕业10年了，人在外地，确实渐渐遗忘
但这华教义演的舞台，仍然孜孜不倦地为华教募款直到今天

不知道是有其父必有其女，还是相反
当年，爸忙着工作，我忙学校活动还搞什么筹款
现在，我忙着工作，爸忙社团活动也搞这个筹款
原来这种魄力是遗传的！
我们呐，就因为这样，常常去吃筹款晚宴

啊，好怀念当年的我。。和你们。
当时那股拼劲儿，魄力和凝聚力
已经慢慢在消失了


美丽的回忆。

09.11.08 南兴华小。Tiger华教义演

很受uncle aunty欢迎的黄一飞与喵喵组合

日子一样过

Schedule – meeting – delay – target – rush – discrepancy – coordination – defects – rectification – production – delivery – progress

These are words I'm facing everyday… and challenging. Never can expect what is going to be handled the actual day. Once starts work, calls will flow in, additional works will pile up. battling each day with positive minds, never think of running away... I faced it, I handled it as I always believe there’s nothing can’t be solved.

To keep surviving, attack when in advantage, defence when in disadvantage, as long as it’s a statement of FACT. Though I’m still a subcon in a meeting, I’m not scared whether you are consultant or main-con...moreover, only a work..

But there’s one time.. I was hit down by a super 鸟人. So what if he is a director from consultant? 自视过高，鼻子长在眼睛上，鸟话一堆，越听越想丢些狗屎过去。身为一个 director说出伤人的话，只是显出你的幼稚和无知。Though my confident was crashed by him, but I learnt from that, I returned a smile to him as I see no points to continue the conversation with him....

That day a PM said I look so “秀气” as most of the lady in construction line are boyish. Chey, lady in construction also go for perm hair, short skirt and high heels lo!! What’s the different of us? Another 鸟人

I’m a supplier, a subcon and I don’t have the luxury to have loud voice. Instead we have to do lots of reports, update lots of progress to all the parties. Each time, I have to mask myself up to be strong and tough. Damn tired!! I wish I won’t be a supplier anymore!! I want to be the owner!! The one that have the last say!! Even be a small small engineer but still representing the highest hierarchy.

最近脑袋很涨, 太多东西得处理.
对于一个工作满6天的我来说, 仅剩的空余时间并不多.
希望一切顺心顺意, 那烦恼就少点.

我的busy是...

"才发现, 之前热腾腾的Milo, 想喝第二口时, 却已经凉了."

是早上进office后的真实写照.


how about you?

会心一笑

Silver Medal for M'sia

Last night all of us had our early dinner then standby in front of TV for the Badminton Men's Single's Final.

Though M'sian Lee Chong Wei unable to beat China Super Dan, but at least he done his best to get into FINAL.

And Lee got his Olympic Silver medal with 12-21, 8-21.

We should be proud of him !

上上周末的事

在极度忙碌的工作之余
我们去HK疯狂地
买东西，吃东西。。。
。。。买东西，吃东西

Summary一下

发记甜品的芒果pancake, 芒果糯米卷很特别咯
并不会因为吃太多甜品而感到罪恶的。



除了去茶楼吃点心外，
也尝了很普通的通心粉，公仔面，猪扒包，
还有“世上最好味的旦挞”
晚餐也吃了烧鹅，但不是那排长龙的镛记。



路走很多，脚很痛
天气很热，人很多
衣服很美，买不多
但买的东西却很够力
回程大家都满载而归
飞机坐的很不舒服，头很痛
凌晨3点躺在床上
脑袋是累的，但是脚板的细胞却超活跃！
塞利啦！想睡却睡不了

总结下来
罪恶至极的。。。
就是它啦！！
这是初体验，感觉很深刻。
这样的店，女人多到数不清
情形就像上市场买菜一样
“我要看这个，我要看那个”
那种环境下，你是整个融入没有价值观的世界中
不管价钱多少，只是一个没有感觉的figure
然后非得挑一个满足地走出店外

自我反省中。